Monday, May 15, 2017

Fidgeting Isn't Cool

Lately I've realized how much I fidget. - especially when I'm sitting next to someone who doesn't.  In church one Sunday, I was sitting next to a lady who sat so still the entire time while I crossed and uncrossed my legs multiple times, scratched my nose and head, sat up straight and then slouched again repeatedly, moved the hair out of my face and tucked it behind my ear several times, and scratched other itches.

I realize that some people have ADD or other conditions that cause them to fidget, but I think in my case it's mostly from caffeine, and maybe some anxiety. I know I'm not the only one.  As I look around, I notice knees bouncing, pencils tapping, people constantly tucking hair behind their ears, people biting their nails or picking at their fingers, and people nervously looking around as someone is talking to them (which I'm also guilty of). Proper etiquette dictates that one should pay strict attention to the person whom they are conversing with, and to make them feel like they are interested in what they are saying - not looking around the room for someone else, or an escape route - even if they are not interested.

That lady seemed so ladylike and calm compared to me. And, even when I tried to sit still, I couldn't. I fidget usually from discomfort, which is why I cross and uncross my legs - because of pressure on some point that becomes uncomfortable. So, to remedy this, I need to train myself to sit with both feet on the floor, or ankles crossed and to be mindful of fidgeting, and make an effort to be still.

I drink 2 to 3 cups of coffee every morning, and I do notice feeling very jittery and anxious after the second cup. So, another goal is to cut down to 1 cup and then switch to green tea to get less caffeine and more health benefits.

I don't know if I'll ever be able to sit as still as my role model, but I'm going to try to improve that bad habit.  Fidgeting so much makes me look like a nervous wreck - and, I really don't have anything to be nervous about! Thankfully, habits can be broken and changed with some effort.  The fidget spinner has become all the rage lately, but I don't want something to fidget with. I just want to stop.

Maybe in this day and age of being so overstimulated with nonstop updates from social media, email, news, television, radio, games, and other noise, some of us have become impatient and get bored too easily, making it hard to sit and focus on one thing for very long.

Have you noticed yourself fidgeting, too?